I had a session with one of my chosen trainers this week, and after that session, my clarity fell – like a stone dropped into a well. It can be sweaty to look at yourself in the mirror and realize your own responsibility in situations, especially when it feels like a gramophone record that has hooked itself up and stuck on the same track. It becomes extra challenging when you are 53 years old and the record has been hooked up since childhood… but as the wise say – better late than never. 😊

See the truth in the whites of your eyes
I don’t like being alone, but at the same time I have the ability to feel suffocated in relationships. That’s why I have always enjoyed relationships with animals more than with people. It doesn’t matter if it’s about relationships in work life, family, friendships or hobbies – you get the idea…
I have always experienced that relationships start with laughter and joy, but then something happens. After my session, I realized what it is: the step after the fun stage is the significance stage. We start to care, fear creeps in – the fear of losing, of being abandoned, of not being good enough. At this stage, uncertainty knocks on the door and creates behaviors that I have experienced as inhibiting and suffocating. Often it has led me to choose to go my own way.
You talk about a dream you want to realize, and suddenly the funny friend says:
– Are you really going to do it? What if you fail?
A comment based on fear instead of courage. The cheerleader turns into the resistance movement…
To project your own fear onto others is to avoid responsibility. On the other hand, to understand what cards you yourself are putting on the table and how they affect the game – that is to take responsibility. Only then can the gramophone record come off and start playing again. We are all directors of our own lives. In my session I found my responsibility, and thus I can change myself.

Unconditional love – based on courage instead of fear
Relationships are like a pot. They can be magically flavorful, but also bitter and bitter – depending on the ingredients we add. So what should a healthy relationship pot contain? Shared values, communication and the ability to compromise? Of course.
But when we delve into the deepest core of healthy relationships – whether it’s with our dog, horse, cat, our children, family, colleagues or life partners – we find unconditional love, free from fear and based on courage.
Courage to let those we love live their lives and have the trust that they can navigate their own paths. Leadership is about influencing and showing the way, which is crucial for small creatures who don’t yet know how the world works – like crossing a street without getting run over. But they too need to learn through their own experiences. As a leader, it takes courage to stand by and let them grow through their own potential, rather than limiting them.

Courage to act with love instead of fear
We humans can be inspired by animals, who show us love in its purest form. A horse does not feel love based on performance. A dog does not love us more because we look a certain way or have a high status in society. They sense our inner state and reflect our energy – without judgment.
The key to healthy relationships is acceptance, without ego involvement – allowing others to be exactly as they are, without wanting to shape or change them for our own sake.
Unconditional love requires courage. Courage to let each other go and have faith that everything will be as it is meant to be. Feelings are just feelings – we do not die from them. But if we stop living from our true longing, then we stagnate and life slowly slips through our fingers.
Life is about change, and we need courage to let things happen. That is why faith is so important – the faith that everything happens for a reason, that everything is exactly as it should be.
It is beautiful to let each other go. If two souls (beings) are meant to walk together, then they will. The opposite – to stifle and limit – creates fear, which in turn breeds hatred and division.
So what would happen if we started practicing this form of love in all our relationships? If, instead of reacting out of fear, we stopped and chose to act out of love?
The answer is simple – we would create deeper, more authentic and lasting relationships. Relationships where we and those we love are allowed to be exactly who we are, until the day comes when it’s time to go our separate ways.
So enjoy it while it lasts. ❤️